Anyone in a relationship knows that communication is the key to happiness—and intimacy. Being able to communicate with your partner about the naughty stuff can bring you closer together and make your intimate life more fun, passionate, adventurous and exciting. Make him imagine you in something sexy and describe every detail. If they say yes, their confidence will be super sexy.

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When you're barely past the first date with someone new, everything from where they grew up to their favorite sex position is a fascinating mystery to unravel about the other person. Once a couple has been together for years, though, they often think of their partner as less of a mystery, and more like a book that's been read so many times, there are no surprises left. Asking each other dirty questions can be a hot way to get to know what a new partner likes, plus how to turn them on, and for longtime couples, a great game to spice things up. Citing what marriage-focused therapist Esther Perel says in her book Mating in Captivity , Ligon says that " it's all about meeting your partner over and over again, and falling in love with them again. And with yourself, as well.